I for one am trying to get my wife to be more independent. I would love it if she would plan a vacation trip with her girl friends. Of course, I would then have more leverage to justify hiking trips I take on my own (Is that selfish?).
My situation is awkward because my wife loves the outdoors and would love to go backpacking, but for a variety of health reasons is no longer able to do so. So if I were to go away for a weekend to hang out with friends, she would be OK with that. But when I go for a weekend of backpacking, she feels I am being insensitive for doing something that she would like to do but can't. Is it selfish of her to have that double standard or is it selfish of me to go hiking if it makes her feel bad?